Well, the past 24 hours have been quite busy, both in Austin
and in Washington. This day, regardless of it directly affected you or not, is
one that will go down in history. I realize most of my entries are in regards
to my sexuality. But it is the most prevalent topic for me. And really, I hope
it is more interesting than some of the other blogs that are out there!!
While today’s rulings affect millions and millions of individuals
and their families, it also indirectly affects more people than you know. It
makes me think – while we are thanking our politicians that spoke for us today,
let us not forget those who are not with us to thank. To the many people whose
lives were lost because of discrimination and hatred, those who were murdered,
and those who decided to end their own lives. We are always reading about
people getting attacked and beaten for being gay. I see so many sad stories
about kids who couldn’t take the bullying. So many young people affected
because they are scared to be who they want to be. I am 30, so your opinion is
of no consequence to me. But I can’t imagine being 15 and having to hear all
the ass-clowns with their ridiculous opinions on gay marriage, or just being
gay in general. How does my relationship really affect yours? I can’t think of
one “straight” relationship that has ended because I live in a house with Kait.
None of my neighbors have moved out, in fact, they are all very nice to us. Our
town hasn’t become destitute; no one we know is trying to marry a horse or a plant.
None of our gay friends are child molesters or pedophiles. Being gay (contrary
to what some will tell you) did not cause the Boston Massacre, the tornados in
Moore, OK, Hurricane Sandy, or any other disaster for that matter. None of our friends
have to get weekly shots to avoid catching “the gay disease”, no one is trying
to take us for a lobotomy, and certainly no one’s relationship is coming apart
because of who we are.
Today was a huge step in the right direction. We have to
wait on the state of Texas to legalizing gay marriage. That might take a while,
but we are positive about it and will continue to live our lives, regardless of
what politicians tell us what we can and can not do. We will start a family,
continue to work and pay our taxes. We will continue to live our lives and will
wait for the day that it is legal for us to be joined as one. What a ridiculous
statement, if you stop and think about it. It’s not like I am waiting for you
to fly me to space. I’m “waiting” for you to say its “OK” to love someone else.
Someone that you don’t even know and will never know. Our families have all
accepted us, our community, and our friends. Why I have to wait on a bunch of
politicians is beyond me. But regardless, we will wait. Not quietly, mind you.
Your opinion will not change who we are in our everyday lives. We will talk
about the person we love, we will be with the person we love, and no legal
standing will change that. We aren’t hiding. We are not two different people in
public than in private. Our relationship is not hidden from anyone, and shame
on you who think it should be. We are not just “friends”, or “roommates”. We take care of each other in every way, and
no ruling will ever stop that.
My last paragraph is dedicated to those who don’t think
before they speak. Every time you use the phrase, “oh, that’s so gay”, “don’t
be a fag”, “that’s queer”, let me remind you. Those words sting. They hurt.
They may mean nothing to you, but they do mean something to us. There is no
need for them, and I am tired of people using them in such a derogatory way. Parents,
hopefully you teach your kids not to use any derogatory terms like this, that
apply to more than just the gay way of life. Calling someone “retarted” or
making fun of people for their skin color or religious background is NEVER ok
and it is not going to ever stop if we don’t make an effort. Bullying is a
problem, but one that can be fixed. It has nothing to do with becoming stronger
or just ignoring it. Why do it in the first place? What’s so wrong with being
nice to one another? What’s so wrong or scary about telling someone we need to
make it a better place? One person CAN make change. Just ask Eddie Windsor.
Martin Luther King, Jr. Rosa Parks. If
none of them had bothered to take a stand, do you even want to think where we’d
be today?
I don’t.
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